Duplicative Love
When parents divorce and remarry on down the road, it is hard on the children to understand how, if you can 'unlove', how could you love again and still love others around you.
My daughter asked me the other day about, if I had more than one child, how would I split my love between them. I told her that it really isn't about splitting the love, but I didn't go much further than that to explain that to her in depth.
What I did mean to explain was about duplicative love - meaning, that it is important for a person to be able to duplicate the love they feel for one person and love the other person in much the same way and intensity. I have always believed it was possible and couldn't understand others who felt that you can only love one person or another; however, we do it all the time. We love our spouse as much as we love our children, and vice-a-versa. We love our spouse as much as we love our parents, and vice-a-versa.
The way we express our love for others may differ. For example, we become intimate with our spouse to demonstrate our love for them; for our children, we demonstrate our love through exuding unconditional love for them when they do wrong (showing them that we will always be there for them); for our parents, we show are love by obeying and respecting them. All in all though, we love each and every one of them just as much as we love the other.
When we don't feel the love has been reciprocated though, our emotions and feelings come into play and affects our very psyche, our soul. Therefore what sayeth you? are you loving those around you as much as you love the other? are you demonstrating that on a daily basis? What will you do today to ensure the loved ones' psyche goes unbroken and they know how much you love them?
Remember - duplicative love. How have you duplicated your love today???
My daughter asked me the other day about, if I had more than one child, how would I split my love between them. I told her that it really isn't about splitting the love, but I didn't go much further than that to explain that to her in depth.
What I did mean to explain was about duplicative love - meaning, that it is important for a person to be able to duplicate the love they feel for one person and love the other person in much the same way and intensity. I have always believed it was possible and couldn't understand others who felt that you can only love one person or another; however, we do it all the time. We love our spouse as much as we love our children, and vice-a-versa. We love our spouse as much as we love our parents, and vice-a-versa.
The way we express our love for others may differ. For example, we become intimate with our spouse to demonstrate our love for them; for our children, we demonstrate our love through exuding unconditional love for them when they do wrong (showing them that we will always be there for them); for our parents, we show are love by obeying and respecting them. All in all though, we love each and every one of them just as much as we love the other.
When we don't feel the love has been reciprocated though, our emotions and feelings come into play and affects our very psyche, our soul. Therefore what sayeth you? are you loving those around you as much as you love the other? are you demonstrating that on a daily basis? What will you do today to ensure the loved ones' psyche goes unbroken and they know how much you love them?
Remember - duplicative love. How have you duplicated your love today???
posted by Kat Davis at 3:28 AM
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